Dear SBM, I recently discovered your website and became an instant fan, I am so appreciative of the feedback from men when it comes to advice on this site. I met this guy on a dating website and we really hit it off. It is clear that we are very physically attracted to each other (we have not had sex yet) however the part I find very refreshing is that we are spiritually connected.He barely texted or called, I left him alone but finally cracked after 5 days and just sent him a simple text like “how are you? Maybe something about where things were going, or the thought of having to rely on someone else for something was too much.However how do you go from consistently talking to barely talking at all? I would talk about the fact that you met him online and the potential impact that had on how things played out. Being out the game has given me a clearer sense of thinking. maybe it’s just because living in California now and the air downtown is laden with weed smoke … Basically, they decide to be smart and cut the unnecessary thing in their life.
"It's called dating." Has dating really devolved into something so cynical?
And why is it the man who's always pulling the disappearing act?
Since we began going out, we have been out every single weekend. There are a handful of general reasons, which have nothing to do with you or make sense to you, which might apply.
We are both into being positive and finding wholeness within ourselves.
(It was the 90s, and I think this was a line from a rap song.) After dating me for about three or four months and getting close to my mom, this boyfriend told me he had to "visit family in Virginia." After waiting about 2 months without a word, I realized he was never coming back. I found out later that he'd moved in with his ex-girlfriend somewhere down south.
And then there's the adult Casper, who's playing a more serious game.
I also happen to be a mean sumb*tch who likes to hear himself talk ...
"There's a term for when a guy stops calling," my hairdresser tells me as he curls my tresses into a Joan Crawford wave à la Mildred Pierce.
Men who ghost have obvious issues with communication skills, but we also live in a world where it's easy to defriend our partners, not respond to a text message, send a call to voicemail or ignore an admirer on an online dating site.
Unfortunately, these advances in technology have an impact on how we socialize, and I'm assuming make it easier for a man to justify an unexplained exit.
Sadly, these types of stories don't shock me any more.