The thing is that it’s now really niggling at me and I feel like he’s broken my trust.
I feel like I’m in the “normal” (whatever that is) range of trusting partners, even though my last relationship of 9 years ended when he left me out of the blue for another girl (I know this is probably and subconsciously a fear of mine that this will happen again in a relationship, as it was such a shock).
Today, we can contact this person at the touch of a button and in an idle moment might send off a “Hi Sexy” message.
Boyfriend joined dating service Cam chat party
I understand that we’re all human and we notice the opposite sex, but I just have lots of questions running through my mind now like “was he being genuine at the beginning?
”, “is he such a sexual being that when I’m not there, his eyes wander and therefore will he cheat on me?
However, in the old days we would have to find a photo, write a letter, post it to a PO Box and wait for a reply.
It wasn’t very likely we were going to do all that unless we were interested in meeting that person.
I told him how it really upset me and how disrespectful I found it, especially as it was a dating website.
He responded with saying that although he didn’t see anything wrong in it “it’s nothing”, he could see that it had upset me and so when I asked him to delete it, he went ahead and deleted his account.
I feel really confused though, as he told me that he used to do this (“yes” or “no” thing on the dating website) before we started a relationship almost just to fill the time I guess.
He also told me that the reason he’s started doing it again recently was because he’s bored whilst he’s staying in hotels.
I feel really confused, as my current partner used to tell me that he only had eyes for me and he was (my name-)sexual/asexual, as he stopped looking at other girls in that way.
After this all came out about him looking at dating sites, he seemed to take this all back and reminded me that he is heterosexual.
Should I be feeling so insecure or do I just need to let it go?