A lot of women are looking for something serious and have no interest in participating in your immature wager with friends. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30 The problem..the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully.There’s obviously a reason she didn’t think it would work out, so why keep trying to pursue someone who is clearly not interested in you?You don’t always know what to say and the pressure of finding an appropriately interesting topic can leave you nervous and lacking in confidence. Men just don’t have enough experience sometimes in dealing with women in a social setting.
If nothing else, she’ll admire the fact that you took the time to “get to know” her.
It is hard for men to approach women and start up a conversation.
But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.
By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.
When at work, listen to your co-workers and find out what interests them. Once you learn basic social skills, you will be ready to socialize with women.
All too often men tend to freeze up when they meet a woman. You find yourself unable to respond or to keep the conversation going.
Or if you feel compelled to bring it up, say something like, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone else online. Trust us, she’s getting a boatload of uninspiring messages like “Hi, how are you?
” and “You’re gorgeous, I’d love to chat.” If you want to get her attention, try doing something a bit more personal.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.