Although I’ve gotten help for my problem and have not acted out sexually since that time, she continues to be distant, critical, angry, and mistrustful.Most partners feel betrayed and emotionally abandoned when either through disclosure or discovery they learn of their spouse’s online sexual activities, even if a real-life affair has not occurred. Give your partner space and understanding to express his or her hurt and anger without trying to avoid, dismiss, or make it different. Consider couples counseling, or attending a couples’ support group to help work through the rough times. Q: I have a larger sexual appetite than my partner, so for years to satisfy myself I’ve been involved in affairs, both online and offline; use porn; and regularly receive sensual massages. Part of what determines whether someone is a sex addict is not just looking at the person’s sexual behaviors, but also at how he or she is living his or her life.Go together for couples treatment, preferably with a counselor who is knowledgeable about how the Internet can affect relationships.
Increasingly, 12 step sexual addiction recovery programs are welcoming women.
It is essential that women in sexual recovery seek out and find the fellowship of other recovering women to share their stories and reduce the stigma of being a woman with this problem.
Real-life sex with a committed partner can evolve into an intimacy that is very different than sex with an image on a screen.
But real intimacy takes dedicated work, communication, and play – for any addict it is always going to seem easier to pick up the phone, the computer, or a stranger for instant gratification than struggle with the messy unpredictability of an intimate relationship.
Part of the problem is that most women don’t identify as having a “sex” problem or sexual addiction.
Women will more frequently relate to having relationship, love, or marital problems even though they may be engaging in addictive sexual activity.
In this case, it would be helpful for you to see a counselor alone in order to sort out your options.
You might also consider joining an online support group for partners of sex addicts.
I'm looking for a woman to make love to on the internet, one who would be willing to let me impregnate them.
Q: I spend many hours a week involved in online cybersex and checking out social networks for sex/relationship partners; I enjoy every moment. If you repeatedly spend more time on online looking for sex and love than you intend, if you continue this despite significant negative consequences in your life (examples: risking loss of relationships, job, health problems, time away from loved ones, recreation, or viewing illegal porn), and if you are obsessed or preoccupied with these activities when you should be focused on other aspects of your life, then you likely have an addiction or related problem.
Alcoholics were assumed to be males, usually found drunk in back-alleys and half-way houses.