It takes anywhere from 1-3 years for individuals to emotionally recover from divorce.
But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.
So chances are very good that sooner or later you (along with nearly every other divorced parent) will be dipping your toe into the waters of dating after divorce.
Take things slowly and give everyone the time they need to adjust to this new world of dating after divorce.
How long after my divorce should I wait before I begin dating?
It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.
And as has been stated many times on this site, knowing your child will always help you better understand what may be going on for him/her.
Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.
This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.
Obviously the time needed to heal is different for everyone.
Some professionals suggest waiting a year after the divorce before dating.
This roller coaster ride is hard enough for adults. The other side of this is that children are often not all that nice to people their parents are dating.