How many people feel as though they have attained that type of ideal?
And do psychologists confirm this new paradigm is a good one to strive for?
Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding any mental health symptom or medical condition.
I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.
On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.
I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.
She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.
When confronted by real and conflicting feelings, you chose the potential of a serious romantic relationship over your friendship.
This may have been a really wise choice or a poor choice. Understanding what led you to make the choice, and finding some peace around your decision, will be important for you.Well, me and this guy started sleeping together about two weeks ago and we're crazy about each other. My feeling is that she would be very hurt, but at the same time I don't want to pass up a chance to be with someone who could turn out to be the love of my life, you know?So a part of me wants to tell her in the hopes that she would be happy for me, but when I put myself in her shoes hearing this news, I think I'd be devastated.There will be no shortage of people with opinions and judgment.She, or others, may try to make you feel guilty or ashamed of what has happened. Is it unfortunate that you have fallen for your friend’s ex? Would it have been better to talk with her before things got to this point? However, all you can do now is own your choices and move forward with honesty and integrity.You also have the opportunity to use this experience as a chance for some introspection.