Although a younger girlfriend bought him some time, biologically speaking, it also alienated him from his friends, who could understand the physical attraction but couldn’t really relate to Rachel.
WOULD DATE: Reasons: Clear on the difference between your/you’re; enthusiasm; future plans; who doesn’t love the raised hands emoji. You can follow her on Twitter @mariellewakim, on Instagram @marielle.m.n.o.p, and on her website.
WOULDN’T DATE: Reasons: Am I texting my grandfather? No exclamation point (too rah-rah); no period (only a monster would do that). He says, “I’m actually only free on Wednesday at ” (-50, why even bother asking when you’re available, then? She wrote Rachel Bloom Is Going to Alienate New Yorkers If She Feels Like It.
Whatever the flaws in their relationship, he told himself, being with her was better than being single in Portland again. Now in his early 30s, Jacob felt he had no idea how to make a relationship work. Would permanence simply happen, or would he have to choose it? All of a sudden I was going out with one or two very pretty, ambitious women a week. They dated for a few months, and then she moved in.
Around this time, he signed up for two online dating sites: Match.com, a paid site, because he’d seen the TV ads; and Plenty of Fish, a free site he’d heard about around town. At first I just thought it was some kind of weird lucky streak.” After six weeks, Jacob met a 22-year-old named Rachel, whose youth and good looks he says reinvigorated him. (Both names have been changed for anonymity.) Rachel didn’t mind Jacob’s sports addiction, and enjoyed going to concerts with him. She was from a blue-collar military background; he came from doctors.
“It’s always ‘I wish I was as important as the basketball game or the concert.’ ” An only child, Jacob tended to make plans by negotiation: if his girlfriend would watch the game with him, he’d go hiking with her.
He was passive in their arguments, hoping to avoid confrontation.
She placed a high value on things he didn’t think much about: a solid credit score, a 40-hour workweek.
Jacob also felt pressure from his parents, who were getting anxious to see him paired off for good.
introduces an entirely new and totally site-specific set of deal breakers to the already-impossible-to-navigate dating scene. He comes back at you with, “Maybe it’d be better to grab coffee instead of drinks since we both have work the next day, LOL! The conversation ends with him texting to say he’ll “let you know where tomorrow.” You don’t hear from him until Wednesday at p.m. “Maybe next time.” Grand total: -472 Let’s do better.