She opens her mouth with wisdom and loving instruction is on her tongue.
Recent months and years have also seen a more robust discussion about whether the Bible really has anything practical or specific to teach us about dating.
So I thought it might be helpful to mark the (nearly) 10-year anniversary of the Biblical Dating series by asking again, The answer in a literal sense, of course, is "nothing." Not only do the words "dating" and "courtship" fail to appear in Scripture, but the Bible never depicts the sociological phenomenon of an unmarried man and woman meeting, deciding on their own to become romantically involved, and pursuing a relationship from the stages of acquaintance through marriage.
Christian dating does not consist of casual dating, which is unbiblical. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not conceited, does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs. To marry and be a representation of Christ and the church. “Oh Lord I want to love and lay down my life for someone just like you loved and laid down your life for me.”Are you able to leave your mother and father? The love between a father and his daughter is so great. Imagine His seriousness if you lead His daughter down the wrong path. Honor them as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing may interfere with your prayers. If you feel the temptation just stop don’t lie to yourself. Kissing for a long period of time with someone who you are not married to is wrong, it is a form of foreplay, and it will cause you to fall. Waiting and disciplining yourself in many areas will make your sexual relationship in marriage more unique, special, godly, and intimate. This is something that you should really pray about and listen to the Lord. I’ve heard some guys say, “I can handle it I’m strong enough.” No you’re not! If God blesses you with a very beautiful godly woman or handsome man that is OK, but looks are not everything. Look for godliness because a husband is to one day be your spiritual leader.
This type of dating will leave you broken and all over the place and I’m not even talking about sex. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. Do you have any responsibilities or are your parents paying for everything? Is there kissing in the Bible that applies to dating? It is a good idea when Christians don’t kiss before marriage because when you kiss there is no going back you can only go a step farther. The desires for the opposite sex are so strong that we are told to run. If you are looking for a supermodel you must know that extreme pickiness is not good and also there is a strong chance that you are not a supermodel. Look for his love for the Lord and the advancement of His kingdom.
Second Timothy -17 teaches us that "[a]ll Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work." That teaching, reproof and correction may be only at the level of broad principles in some areas of life (like dating), but it will be there nonetheless.
How can we search Scripture on a topic that may be only indirectly addressed in the Bible (or evaluate what someone else has written on such a topic) without either being overly dismissive on the one hand or inappropriately "proof-texting" on the other?
One of the great things about Boundless is that the community here is, within the confines of a clear and evangelical understanding of the Gospel, often pretty diverse in terms of the specific recommendations and approaches to dating represented by various authors.
So if you are a regular and thorough Boundless reader, you've had a lot to think about!
The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. You will start saying, “maybe I’m too this, maybe I’m too that, maybe I need to start looking like this, maybe I need to buy that.” That is idolatry and of the devil. He wants you to keep on knocking and one day He is going to say, “enough, you want it?
If you seek to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever not only is it wrong, you will regret it, and you will be hurt. There are so many things in this world that help you deceive yourself. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word?
She makes and sells linen garments; she delivers belts to the merchants.